Why is there no incentive in life? Lack of meaning in life and vital energy: what to do if there is no motivation? How to motivate yourself if there is no incentive and you give up

As it says popular expression, which is attributed to various philosophers, "correctly asked question- half the answer." Therefore, when trying to find an incentive to live, a person should first think about his goals: why he lives in this world. Depending on the meaning that people put into their existence, it is worth selecting the incentive - after all, a Buddhist monk, an American athlete or a Russian teacher will have completely different ones. Having defined your goals, you should set priorities: what will contribute and what, on the contrary, is an obstacle to achieving the desired result.

However, the question about the true meaning of life, which has worried humanity for thousands of years, has not yet found the only correct answer. There are different opinions, for example, as some modern philosophers argue, the meaning of life is in itself. Every moment of life is unique and valuable, and trials and hardships are necessary for balance, balancing the happy moments that befall a person. After all, you can understand “white” only by comparing it with “black”. And only the person himself will be able to give an answer about the meaning of his existence, and therefore choose a suitable incentive for himself.

Thoughts about finding a stimulus in life often come during times of crisis. It is not necessary that the person has experienced any shock or hardship. It happens that people, having seemingly achieved everything they dreamed of (marriage, financial well-being, career, etc.), realize that they have lost the most important thing - the desire to strive for something again. You can try to wait out this moment, taking advantage of the circumstances to relax and gain strength for new achievements, or you can reconsider your life tasks and goals - after all, some people just need to stop from time to time and think about how and why they live.

Finding an incentive to live as work on yourself

It happens that a person feels the need for a stimulus under the influence of negative circumstances (loss of a job, divorce, death of someone close and other trials of fate). When you give up and don’t want to move on with your life, you can’t allow yourself to get bogged down more and more in these thoughts. As the main character of the cult “Gone with the Wind” said, it’s better to think about it tomorrow. For now, focus on pressing concerns. This will be especially effective if the actions are related to physical activity - cleaning the home, doing laundry or any similar activities. As banal as it may sound, such advice, according to a number of psychologists, is quite universal and at the same time effective.

For many, the incentive is money, or rather, material well-being. And there is nothing wrong with this if people strive to provide for themselves in honest ways, without going too deep into work. However, when work or the process of making money becomes the only meaning and incentive for existence, it is worth thinking about your priorities - it is important to find a place for others no less important factors necessary for a full life. Communicating with relatives and friends, actively relaxing and playing sports or your favorite hobby, traveling and making new friends, you can feel that life is filled with meaning, and there is simply no need to search for incentives!

Good day, dear blog readers!
Just today I heard a question from a friend: “Tell me how can I live if there is no incentive?” As we see, the relevance of such a topic is undeniable, so we continue our conversation about and

So, how can you find interest in life and is it worth waiting for a motivational kick from behind? Or you should gather your courage and finally take a step forward on your own. Let's talk about methods of combating laziness.

Lack of interest in life: where does it come from?

Psychologists are often approached with the question of how to make life more interesting and find meaning in it. Let alone the difficulties of making changes for the better.

For some reason, in the modern world, being very busy at work is considered the norm, and it is advisable to periodically visit various professional courses and self-development trainings.

No, I'm not saying it's bad. But, if you live like a squirrel in a wheel and don’t even have time to get a decent night’s sleep between work, courses and attempts to arrange your personal life, then you definitely need to do something about it.

You probably have a question now: how does this relate to the lack of incentive to live?

The connection is actually direct. Look, if you sleep five hours a day and work hard, then sooner or later the body’s resources will come to an end.

Of course, at first everything will happen as planned. But at some point, it will become clear that your once-favorite training sessions only cause yawning, you quietly hate work, and your biggest dream is to get enough sleep on the weekend.

This is what lack of interest in life looks like. In fact, this condition occurs due to common chronic fatigue. And it is precisely at this point that the question arises, how can one again feel happy and interested in what is happening.

It is worth noting that interest in life can also disappear due to psychological trauma. For example, the loss of a loved one, physical or emotional abuse. In this case, you should not engage in “self-medication”.

The peculiarity of psychological trauma is that it can affect our existence for many years. Sometimes it happens that the circumstances have long been forgotten, and the consequences still do not allow us to breathe deeply. Therefore, in this case, you should immediately contact a psychologist.

And one more thing: it is impossible to trigger such states, since they end in depression and apathy. And this should be addressed not to a psychologist, but to a psychotherapist or even a psychiatrist. In general, it is better to react immediately!

Another option for losing motivation to do something is a creative crisis. It occurs most often in people whose activities should involve a muse.

The lack of creativity in this case is very difficult to experience, so a little later I will tell you how to get it back.

How to motivate yourself if there is no incentive and you give up?

If you are tired and you no longer have the strength to do anything, then the first thing you need to do is rest. Yes Yes! If you want to start working, you first need to rest. Because internal resources you no longer have. And if there are no resources, there is no interest, inspiration, or desire to live.

Note! Relaxing does not mean sleeping twenty hours a day. Firstly, in this way you will disrupt your daily routine. And secondly, too much sleep can also cause apathy.

Rest in this case means a change of scenery, getting new experiences, and finding something that inspires. For example, in moments of such overwork, going to a rock concert helps me. In such an atmosphere, an infection of positive emotions occurs.

Now let's talk about those situations when a person gives up. The root cause of this state is fear, uncertainty and doubts about the correctness of one’s own actions; one can also fear for one’s future.

How to motivate yourself in this case? The first option is to gather all your willpower into a fist, imagine the result of all your actions and slowly and confidently move towards it.

In this case, it is worth remembering that at the beginning you will often break away from the intended path, feel guilty and hopeless. But the main thing is to continue the action no matter what.

Attention! Remember one simple thought: if you give up today, then tomorrow will not become easier, simpler or more fun. Give up and things will get worse after a while. To fear, doubt and uncertainty will be added a feeling of guilt and powerlessness.

Typically, the occurrence of such a situation causes deep depression, along with which health problems and cravings for alcohol or smoking may arise.

If you can’t gather willpower and start acting (and this is a very likely scenario, not everyone is super strong-willed and strong-willed), then you need to start developing willpower.

We will use self-hypnosis in this case. To do this, we first define the problem. For example, you can’t get ready and start doing some important work.

We come up with something like the following phrase for self-hypnosis: every day I become more and more focused. The phrase must be repeated two to three times every morning.

How to overcome your laziness and develop motivation?

All people are lazy! But it’s one thing when we just rested a little, so we continue to do the work. And it’s a completely different case when we can’t get out of this state for a long time.

First, let's figure out what laziness is for you? If instead of working you watch movies and TV series, then this is not laziness. This is a reluctance to deal with current affairs.

The way to deal with this is simple: start doing nothing. As soon as you realize that you need to work, and you are watching another series, we immediately get up, turn off the series and sit on a stool in the middle of the room. And we do nothing. We just sit and look at one point.

Believe me, after about five minutes you will want to do at least something just to get up and leave this stool. And at this moment it is necessary to direct energy to do the work. After all, you can watch something interesting later when you get tired.

How to create if your muse has left you?

Search question for creative people- a separate topic. It’s important not just to force yourself to do something, but also to catch inspiration. After all, without it, not a single masterpiece will be created. And the main thing here is to relax, gain new impressions.

If possible, then go for at least a few days to some new town or country. If such a possibility this moment no, then maybe it’s worth wandering through the streets of your city. I think you will definitely find unexplored corners with inspiring history!

So today we talked about how to motivate yourself and start doing something. The methods described are simple and therefore work great. That's all I have for today!

In the future we will continue to talk about the features of motivation. In the meantime, follow the blog updates and share interesting materials on social networks.

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WHAT ARE THE REASONS FOR THE DIAGNOSIS - HOW TO LIVE IF THERE IS NO STIMULUS?

Those who have died morally, are mentally exhausted, there may be two reasons, subjective and objective.
1) Subjective - the mental strength has run out.
This is a completely natural effect if, for example, you put your soul into your work; there are many such positions. A good level of responsibility also implies this. That is, you approach your personal and work affairs responsibly, you worry about them, in this case, of course, some kind of internal wear and tear occurs. But if the job is done well, it brings pleasure and some replenishment. However, there are also enough work tasks that require a lot of time, months, years, to complete. Then it turns out that you invest fully and regularly, but at the end you don’t get anything in return. It's certainly a thankless job. in a good way, but apparently the goal there is big, the result will be thorough. In this case, as I already said, you can replenish your mental strength in nature. In addition, you can take a creative basis for further work from nature; some ideas will come to your mind precisely from observation, and not from another brainstorming session.
2) Objective loss of incentive - when any undertaking does not even have anything to contribute to.
I know that I’m ready to work, and I’m confident in my abilities, but it feels like I don’t need it. Here we have a lack of incentive, because there is nowhere to apply it. I think you are able to look into yourself and figure out what the diagnosis is in your case. The problem of the lack of a stimulus application point is a more fundamental issue. The answer to it will have an impact on the rest of your life. It doesn't just mean what you will do during the next years, here we are already talking about the fact that you will become a different person. After all, if you start doing something differently and do it all the time, then you have become different. Think about it.

WHAT TO DO IF THERE IS NO STIMULUS IN LIFE BECAUSE THERE IS NO WHERE TO APPLY IT?

There are two options.
1) Find the global point of application of the stimulus.
2) Abandon the “stimulus gives life” model, start using the “I and the stimulus are one whole” model.
If the first option can be compared to refilling a car with gasoline until the tank is full, then the second option is a car that drives without gasoline and without an engine. She runs on internal energy. That is, movement for such a machine is its internal property, its essence. Like the property of the sun to glow. Like the property of a ball to roll. You too can become such a person. Tempting, isn't it? :-) Yeah cool. It just seems that after reading this article I will forever become cheerful, cheerful and I will never need any external stimulus for my life :-)

HOW TO BECOME A STIMULUS FOR YOUR OWN LIFE? DEFINITION.

Is it even possible? Perhaps and how! Do you think that all the best things created on Earth were done on orders from above? I will assume that the most perfect thing that was done by man on Earth was done for personal reasons, simply because that’s what the man himself wanted. To put it even more precisely, this was done by this person because that’s how he is made. It would be fair to say about any work, about any business, that it bears part of the personality of the performer himself. Hue. A person can be hardworking, or he can be lazy. The product of one will be of high quality, while the other will have only formal packaging. There is also something else. Products different people will have different characters. Today you can already hear: a car has a character, a telephone has a character, and something like that. Some are closer to the Germans, some are closer to the Japanese, and some are Russian :-) So or not? So, purchasing internal source energy and stimulus, you are still acquiring your individual part of the personality, you are completing your character. The results of your activities, and indeed your life in general, will have not just a quality, it will become better or worse, your life will acquire a certain color characteristic of your personality. This may not be determined right away, but over time you will see the difference in how you worked before and how you work now, with the same degree of activity in this work. It’s hard to describe, it’s a very subtle moment. IN Everyday life in a standard office, in a standard apartment, at the 1st, 2nd, 153rd plant named after. Lenin, in a chain restaurant or store you can hardly notice him. But it is there. Decide for yourself what you want to do: fill the tank full or change yourself. Let's continue for the second option.

I HAVE NO STIMULUS TO LIVE, BUT I WANT TO FIND IT. WHAT TO DO?

Essentially, finding this stimulus within yourself means getting to know yourself. You want to live, you want to feel normal both in health and morale. Do you want it or not? Well, it’s probably hard not to want to live. Either you want to live or you want to die. Borderline state - I don’t care at all))))
1) Give yourself permission to change.
At first glance, a certain selfish practicality of such a decision strikes the eye. In some ways it feels as if you can’t do this, it’s not allowed. This is a soul, can I just take today, sit with it tomorrow and become forever a different person with a life one step better than it was yesterday?.. It’s kind of scary... But I believe that everyone has a complete 100% the right to do whatever you want with your soul and no matter how Life itself (or your Conscience) reacts to it. I mean this literally. Many people, very many, are convinced that for a normal life one must constantly, a lot and persistently work tirelessly. And if you don’t have an incentive to live, it means that you don’t deserve it before Life. At best, Life only allows you to refuel for a couple of years with motivation, an incentive to live and nothing more. But don't you have the right to make your life much better? Of course you have the right! There's no need to even argue here. If you can make your life better, then you have the right to change yourself as you want.
2) Mentally prepare to become a little different (or different).
I understand that this is somehow unusual. It’s one thing to rearrange furniture in an apartment, but here we’re talking about the inner world that needs to be rebuilt. This is not a stack of bricks, I took it and rearranged it. Yes, not a stack of bricks, but don't say people can't change with time. You probably have in your memory specific example from life. Since a person has changed, then you can too. I’ll tell you how to do this now. Well, we focus on the fact that you want to find incentive within yourself.

WHAT IS INTERNAL STIMULUS?

So what should you do? Can I really live without external stimulus? Internal stimulus is a property of your character. This is a property of your personality. For example, you are joyful not because everything in your life is good, but because you are such a person. Well, not necessarily just eternally joyful, well, maybe at least eternally cheerful.
1) The weak link in the external stimulus of life.
Are you always cheerful? Well, ummm, it depends on the mood, the weather, work and a bunch of other things. That is, to make you sad, all I have to do is fire you from work, ruin your mood and make the weather bad? And what do I have to do with this, doesn’t this happen in life? Have you ever been unemployed? Personally, I don’t like this scheme that my mood should depend on a bunch of factors independent of me. That is, my mood can chatter through life like a rag. And I will always be cheerful only because I want it so. It is always nice to have a certain degree of independence and freedom. Well, get it! Do you want an incentive to live? What is life for you? Life activity. That is, you want to have an incentive to live from within; you can simplify it and say to activity. I want to have an incentive inside me to act. What do you want to do? Don’t think, this is a question not for the head, but for the heart. The fact that everyone would not mind becoming rich is understandable. I am not answering the question here about what you want to do to become rich. What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? I want to be a sixth-class fitter. A good desire, the main thing is that it comes from the heart. This person will be the best you know in the business. And you? Who to be? Take a look at your place, it’s been there for a long time, since childhood, you’ve always wanted it, but were afraid to say it. It’s hard to say even to yourself, let alone friends and acquaintances. But, at least now, if you tell yourself this, no one will judge you or laugh at you. Even if you say it, this does not oblige you to immediately take action and begin to zealously bring it to life. So dig in. You cannot be a person who doesn’t like anything at all, who has no soul for anything at all.
2) Universal internal stimulus of life.
Who do you want to be? Do you want to be a man? Or maybe you want to become a woman? I'm not talking about the body, I'm talking about the state of mind. Well, I'm already a man. Nooo, there is a difference between having a primary sexual characteristic and being a real man. If everything were so simple, there would not be so many unhappy wives. And vice versa, this can also be said about women. Well, so are you a real man? Are you a perfect woman? Are you proud of yourself? Wow, what perfection if they are looking for an incentive to live here. What pride if I can’t bring myself to get out of bed at least at three o’clock in the afternoon. So first, try to come to a decision to become the brightest representative of your gender. :-) There is definitely nothing bad in this, and you will get a huge amount of advantages. And this is a universal answer for everyone. Become a more beautiful woman than you were yesterday, become a more courageous guy than you were today. Super! I already want it myself! :-) Forward!

Living life is not a field to cross. The proverb is old, but it fully reflects the state modern man looking back. Without the past there is no future. And the whole past is already in your head. Just work with it like a craftsman would with a piece of clay. Special attention pay attention to exactly those moments that had a key impact on the further course of events throughout your life. Remember the incidents that changed you. Perhaps there were people who changed you. Here is a map of how to live if there is no incentive, but you will have to follow this map yourself. After all, even if it were the most best article in the world, you still bear responsibility for your life, whether with or without incentive. I wish you to learn to enjoy such responsibility!

How to live if there is no incentive? Sad question. Where it comes from is a separate extensive topic, we will not touch on it, but will simply try to answer the question posed.

Needless to say, this is not an easy question. Where can you get incentive if you simply don’t want to live? And yet. Where can I start? First of all, where did he, our dear, go? And to do this, whatever one may say, you will have to dig into the reasons - what, in fact, happened, as a result of which the incentive disappeared somewhere. After all, the nature of the reason may be different, and therefore the solution to the problem called “how to live?” Same. Let's look at the various most common options.

Collapse of personal life, loss. Everything here is ambiguous. It is clear that the loss of a loved one, separation or separation from him is an incredibly difficult situation. And to survive it requires strength, considerable strength. It is not without reason that because of failures in love, people took the most extreme measures - murder and suicide. But such actions also require strength and courage. An ordinary person with average psychological data and normal moral and ethical guidelines will never take such measures, and there is no point in it at all. But what to do - life without a loved one has become hard labor in the literal sense.

In such a situation, the usual advice is to take care of yourself. Well, yes, it’s easy to give advice, but if you don’t have the strength to do anything, if you lie stupidly on the sofa, with your nose buried in the wall, and think, think, think... It’s a difficult case. Smart books can help someone. We can recommend reading unusual philosophical treatises such as Osho’s books. In such cases, he offers one recipe - awareness. Be aware of yourself here and now, separate yourself from the past and from the future, become aware of your thoughts, emotions and your body and look at this whole economy from the outside. Another author, Vadim Zeland, in his “Transurfing” suggests the same thing - to step off the stage into the auditorium, turn from a participant in events into a spectator and simply observe, note. This helps to bear pain and suffering for a while. And then time will take over.

Everything has been achieved, there is nothing to wish for

It seems that I got everything I wanted in this life: a prestigious job, a stable position in society and in financial affairs, a normal family, children. And it seems that there is no point in living further, because there are no new goals. In such cases, you should realize that you are lucky, and angering God, as they say, is a great sin. And in order for an incentive to appear, you can remember the soul - this is a win-win. There is no limit to improvement in this regard. Reading relevant literature is both a goal, an activity, and a source of stimulation. The mass of available literature on eastern spiritual practices will sober up anyone who is “overindulged.” Not to mention the fact that you can do charity work or interesting views sports, travel. And don’t forget how much you have been given in this life.

A pensioner is waste material that no one needs. This, excuse me, is complete nonsense. A person gets what he believes in. If he knows how to do something well, he will find a use for himself. Of course, it’s hard to realize that you are a pensioner, especially in Russia, but to be honest, the state really doesn’t need pensioners in our society. But people need people.

In addition, many people, having retired, think : That’s it, I can’t learn anything - my brains are not the same, and no one needs my knowledge. It is not true. You can always learn new things. By the way, this is what you need to do in order to train your brain and not get Alzheimer’s in the future. And it's never too late to start all over again, never! If you want to know, the Slavic-Aryan Vedas say that the circle of years of life is 144 years, and in light of this, 55-60 years is the beginning of maturity. Look around and start your life again, especially since you have a lot of time now.

It seems to you. Spring exacerbation, autumn blues, hibernation - everyone is familiar with these expressions. Sometimes it just seems to us that there is no incentive, but time passes, summer comes, and life takes on new colors. The main thing is not to fall into despair or despondency. Don’t allow yourself this mediocre luxury, life doesn’t end today, and it will still happen.

The problem of lack of motivation and any vital energy, which is the engine of success and progress in a person’s life, occurs very often and almost everywhere. A person lives without understanding why, without meaning, life goals and strength, all this is directly reflected in the lack of interest in life, the desire to live and any progress and dynamics in the life of such a person.

What is the problem?

This problem can have many origins; it may also be associated with some temporary difficulties and failures of a person that have reduced the level and quality of his life. The source can also be the family in which the child was raised.

This large-scale and all-encompassing problem most often occurs among people who were raised in single-parent families, whose childhood passed without the participation of the male, paternal, and even sometimes maternal components. All this is due to the fact that the direct role of the father in the family and raising a child is to lay in the mind of a small child, from childhood, such concepts as self-realization, success and determination. Only the male component can contribute the most objective and full information about these moments in a child's life.

Also watch the webinar “Instincts, Masculinity and Motivation” by Denis Burkhaev.

The problem of "fatherlessness"

The problem of fatherlessness or the too formal presence of a father in the life of the younger generation creates a systematic and extensive error in a person’s consciousness and his development as a person. Demotivation intensifies under maternal influence; assault and moral oppression are often used. Personal attitudes are “crushed” and a new component is installed in this empty place, which over time replaces the child’s personal component. And often this is done absolutely consciously. Emotions such as shame, fear, pity and guilt are invested in the child’s subconscious. These emotions destroy, erase and destroy the personal component of a person; there is no need to talk about motivation and goal setting here. Boys mainly experience a “demolition” of such an attitude as masculinity.

As a result of this destructive process, the following phenomena occur:

• A man feels inferior, unlike others;
• The level of male hormones decreases under the influence of the psychological component;
• Psychological depression of the individual, destruction of many psychological attitudes characteristic of men, suppression of instincts.

The consequences of these processes are serious violations psychological and physical state of a person, frustration sets in, constant and prolonged depression, which cannot but affect the lack of motivation in a person’s life and the conviction of the futility of one’s own life.